You mom's of special needs kids know what it is to fight. You fought the doctors to speed up diagnosis, you fought the insurance company to pay for therapy, you fought cross town traffic to get to therapy, you fought the pharmacy to accurately fill prescriptions, and you fought the schools to just get fair treatment. It goes completely against what we are told to do in Ephesians.
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2
So-called "normal" kids have the "normal" path laid out for them. For our kids who are forging a path against the grain because of their disabilities or differences, we have to forge for them, so they don't have to do all the fighting.
I have no doubt in my mind that our special needs children were placed in our lives, at this time, in this place for us to raise for His purpose. And I don't doubt that we are to insist that others see the humanity in our children. Neither do I question if we are supposed to push and push and push and not take no for an answer when we know that is the wrong answer for our kids. But I see the affects of the near constant up hill struggle I have faced with my kids. In my marriage.
At the end of a long day, sitting on the couch with a cup of peppermint tea while the house is quiet and I should be calm, and I appear to be calm, just a routine question from my husband can wake the growling dragon that has been tethered inside me all day. It is my choice whether or not to unleash it on him.
After years of enduring my wrath despite having done nothing to cause it, I have begun telling my husband, "I'm not mad at you, I'm mad near you." I know I try my best not to offend the doctors I am frustrated with, not to shout at the insurance company in front of the children, not to show my disappointment in therapists my children love. But I am human. These aches and pains of raising a special needs child have to come out some time. But not at my husband. He loves my kids almost as much as I do (you know noone loves your kids like you do). And he grieves for them like I do, and he longs to fix everything, maybe even more than I do.
"As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received." Ephesians 4:1
Ouch. A reminder of that gift of eternal life, that free gift given by Christ for us. How much hurt was in God's heart over the injustice done to His son? More than is in ours I bet. After a day of fighting for our children, for the justice we feel they deserve, but was denied our Savior, God tells us to live a life worthy of this calling. This calling as a daughter of the risen King. This calling as a mother of a handicapped child. This calling as the wife of the man who is bearing this burden in his own way - a way that we don't understand. We can choose to curtail that growling beast at the end of the day. We can find ways to let out our frustrations that don't hurt the ones that we hold dear. I usually start with prayer, follow up with the Word, and end holding hands with my beloved. I bet some vigorous exercise helps some of you. I used to cry in the shower. Sounds sad, but it helped. Find something. Preferably something that draws you two together, not something that puts you at opposite ends of the boxing ring.
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2
His Three P's
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Saturday, July 28, 2012
Genetic Testing
I have a friend with nine kids. She trusts that the Lord will 'close her womb' when He is ready for her to stop having kids. I wish I could be that trusting of the Lord's vision for my family. We really do want a fourth, but given that we already have three kids with epilepsy, the odds on having one without are pretty slim. And woe be to the normal child born into our family. I'm guessing an abnormally heavy burden would be on his/her heart as s/he grows up to care for siblings who need it.
I do believe He intentionally put my kids together, either to be with each other, or to be raised by us. When I was pregnant with the third, we only knew that the eldest child had epilepsy. His, was idiopathic, possibly caused by a birth injury or low oxygen during labor. We had no reason to think that the other kids would have the same problem. I didn't have the amnio or Chorionic Villus Sampling, more because I was concerned about the risks than having a strong opinion about the results. My doctors pushed, because I was older, and my father is adopted. I think doctors fear the unknown. I knew the Lord had created these children and I had no cause to worry.
Our second child was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was two. The doctor couldn't believe it. He did another EEG. The shocking part was that her EEG pattern was displaying a type of brainwave that indicated a genetic type of epilepsy. So I have one with epilepsy of unknown cause, and one with an apparently genetic type. All eyes went straight to the baby.
You know how the EEG works, right? You go to a clinic or hospital, get your head wired up and lay in a room for 30 to 60 minutes while your brain waves are recorded. Sometimes you go in sleep deprived, sometimes they ask you to hyperventilate, sometimes they flash strobe lights at you. The technicians are trying to elicit a seizure or seizure response so the patterns can be recorded. It's like taking wildlife photos from inside your house. The cardinals may be outside, but unless it flys by the window while you are holding the camera, you won't get the shot.
Same thing with an EEG, if nothing happens during the recording of the brain waves, the doctor might not have any evidence to help determine if you have epilepsy, much less, what kind. I've been told that there is about a 50/50 chance of catching abnormal brain waves in an EEG. A negative EEG doesn't necessarily mean the patient doesn't have epilepsy.
So, now we have one child with one type of brain wave, a second child with fantastic luck on the EEG recording a different type of abnormal brain wave, and time comes to check the baby. Lo and behold she has the same type of pattern as the second child. It looks like they both have the same type of genetically inherited epilepsy. While the first child dodged the bullet on that, he still developed epilepsy anyway. So of course the recommendation is genetic testing. Why, that would answer so many questions, wouldn't it. Wouldn't it?
After extensive discussions with our very understanding and eager doctor, he agreed that no matter what the genetic testing showed, it wouldn't change the prognosis or treatment of the kids. But I know how I feel about having more kids. I feel broken and sad, and know that I won't have more because I am afraid of having more children with a chronic ailment. As much as I love and adore these people, as hard as I try to not let them feel different, I am still fearful of having more. I don't want to saddle my kids with that knowledge until they are ready to handle it. And what if they choose to not want that information. You can't just put the toothpaste back in the tube, right? So we have made the decision to not have genetic testing on the kids. When they are grown, when they are married, maybe they will make those choices for themselves. But I'm not going to put another label on my kids. Not if it doesn't help heal, help treat, help cure. I just don't see anything helpful about it now.
I do believe He intentionally put my kids together, either to be with each other, or to be raised by us. When I was pregnant with the third, we only knew that the eldest child had epilepsy. His, was idiopathic, possibly caused by a birth injury or low oxygen during labor. We had no reason to think that the other kids would have the same problem. I didn't have the amnio or Chorionic Villus Sampling, more because I was concerned about the risks than having a strong opinion about the results. My doctors pushed, because I was older, and my father is adopted. I think doctors fear the unknown. I knew the Lord had created these children and I had no cause to worry.
Our second child was diagnosed with epilepsy when she was two. The doctor couldn't believe it. He did another EEG. The shocking part was that her EEG pattern was displaying a type of brainwave that indicated a genetic type of epilepsy. So I have one with epilepsy of unknown cause, and one with an apparently genetic type. All eyes went straight to the baby.
You know how the EEG works, right? You go to a clinic or hospital, get your head wired up and lay in a room for 30 to 60 minutes while your brain waves are recorded. Sometimes you go in sleep deprived, sometimes they ask you to hyperventilate, sometimes they flash strobe lights at you. The technicians are trying to elicit a seizure or seizure response so the patterns can be recorded. It's like taking wildlife photos from inside your house. The cardinals may be outside, but unless it flys by the window while you are holding the camera, you won't get the shot.
Same thing with an EEG, if nothing happens during the recording of the brain waves, the doctor might not have any evidence to help determine if you have epilepsy, much less, what kind. I've been told that there is about a 50/50 chance of catching abnormal brain waves in an EEG. A negative EEG doesn't necessarily mean the patient doesn't have epilepsy.
So, now we have one child with one type of brain wave, a second child with fantastic luck on the EEG recording a different type of abnormal brain wave, and time comes to check the baby. Lo and behold she has the same type of pattern as the second child. It looks like they both have the same type of genetically inherited epilepsy. While the first child dodged the bullet on that, he still developed epilepsy anyway. So of course the recommendation is genetic testing. Why, that would answer so many questions, wouldn't it. Wouldn't it?
After extensive discussions with our very understanding and eager doctor, he agreed that no matter what the genetic testing showed, it wouldn't change the prognosis or treatment of the kids. But I know how I feel about having more kids. I feel broken and sad, and know that I won't have more because I am afraid of having more children with a chronic ailment. As much as I love and adore these people, as hard as I try to not let them feel different, I am still fearful of having more. I don't want to saddle my kids with that knowledge until they are ready to handle it. And what if they choose to not want that information. You can't just put the toothpaste back in the tube, right? So we have made the decision to not have genetic testing on the kids. When they are grown, when they are married, maybe they will make those choices for themselves. But I'm not going to put another label on my kids. Not if it doesn't help heal, help treat, help cure. I just don't see anything helpful about it now.
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Vocab of The Hound of the Baskervilles
In the previous post, I gave an overview for the homeschool mom of The Hound of the Baskervilles by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. As promised, vocab by chapter. In the vocab list for The Call of the Canyon, I expected my son will cover one chapter every three days, but the chapters in this volume are much smaller, so I combine two chapters of vocabulary this way:
Day 1: Look up vocabulary for Chapter One and Two (neatness counts!)
Day 2: Read Chapter One and Two
Day 3: Write 15 sentences with selected vocabulary words from Day One
Day 4: Look up vocabulary for Chapter Three and Four
Day 5: so on and so forth until the book is complete, five weeks later
As in The Call of the Canyon, there is a reference to "making love" which in this era meant not much more than sitting on a park bench cooing like love birds. You might want to go over this with your child before s/he hits that part. Another lovely opportunity to discuss what is acceptable behavior in our teens, and what our culture brainwashes them into believing is normal.
Chapters One and Two
Bulbous Ferrule Piqued Convex Erroneous Fallacies Inference Amiable Astutely Fulsome Dexterity Forgery Monograph Resignation Grievously Carouse Betwixt Wench Anon Bemused Squires Twain Amiability Scion Bewailing Inquest Eccentric Corroborated Cardiac Organic Prosaic Tenant Impassive Indorse Untenanted Sparsely Trivial Chimerical
Chapters Three and Four
Impenetrable Realm Spectral Hitherto Diabolical Vestry Flippantly Obliged Congenial Seclusion Immaterial Acrid Convict Singular Bewildering Inquest Coherent Baronet Pugnacious Expedient Cajoled Tariff Utmost Speculation Trifles Vengeance Languid Loiterers Benevolent Wily Sauntering Reverence
Chapters Five and Six
Articulate Conjunction Ample Insignificant Venerable Entailed Endeavor Besmirched Proposition Wrung Sovereign Rueful Conjectured Audacious Injunctions Bias Imprudent Exalted Comrade Bramble Waning Equestrian Ferocity Wanton Commutation Atrocious Sombre Discern Balustrade Dias Copses Melancholy
Chapters Seven and Eight
Efface Pallid Erroneous Propitious Excursion Credulous Placid Reproved Cordial Grazier Interminable Irretrievably Tinged Irresolution Induce Monoliths Scarred Antiquarian Disapprobation Choleric Furtive Cunning Surmise Conjecture Concealment Belated Unmitigated Conscientious Incriminating Personification
Chapters Nine and Ten
Reproached Gesticulated Haughty Peremptory Displeasure Rueful Brusquely Conjectures Upshot Cultivating Floundering Agitation Warders Unmitigated Crevice Vile Tor Indelibly Abortive Spectral Distrait Abetting Faculties Atone Deluged Sodden Morass Pittance Connoisseur Cavalier
Chapters Eleven and Twelve
Delicacy Retiring Almoner Torrent Rendezvous Inconclusive Incessant Abhor Reticent Magnates Warren Effigy Incredulity Urchin Toiling Furtive Indignation Decanter Dissuading Incisive Contrived Tenacity Vehemence Piteous Precipitous Paroxysm Ruffianly Roisterer (in the book as Roysterer) Afoot Juncture
Chapters Thirteen and Fourteen
Perceptibly Recital Dictated Precipice Sensational Analogous Reverential Loath Fulfillment Void Hampered Halted Admirable Ambush Serrated Inexorably Inert Hackles Delirious Vulnerable Insensible Feeble Endangered Doddering Defiant Baulk Swathed Weal Mottled Hale Peninsula Quagmires Miasmatic Undulations Perilous Morass Fathomed
Chapter Fifteen
Atrocious Barrister Purloined Consumptive Disrepute Infamy Entomology Ingenious Finesse Diabolical Penetrate Coincide Specious Infernal Lair Accomplice Grotesque Expedient Audacity Instructive Elucidate Waning Confidant Lisping Reproach Implicating Fidelity
Day 1: Look up vocabulary for Chapter One and Two (neatness counts!)
Day 2: Read Chapter One and Two
Day 3: Write 15 sentences with selected vocabulary words from Day One
Day 4: Look up vocabulary for Chapter Three and Four
Day 5: so on and so forth until the book is complete, five weeks later
As in The Call of the Canyon, there is a reference to "making love" which in this era meant not much more than sitting on a park bench cooing like love birds. You might want to go over this with your child before s/he hits that part. Another lovely opportunity to discuss what is acceptable behavior in our teens, and what our culture brainwashes them into believing is normal.
Chapters One and Two
Bulbous Ferrule Piqued Convex Erroneous Fallacies Inference Amiable Astutely Fulsome Dexterity Forgery Monograph Resignation Grievously Carouse Betwixt Wench Anon Bemused Squires Twain Amiability Scion Bewailing Inquest Eccentric Corroborated Cardiac Organic Prosaic Tenant Impassive Indorse Untenanted Sparsely Trivial Chimerical
Chapters Three and Four
Impenetrable Realm Spectral Hitherto Diabolical Vestry Flippantly Obliged Congenial Seclusion Immaterial Acrid Convict Singular Bewildering Inquest Coherent Baronet Pugnacious Expedient Cajoled Tariff Utmost Speculation Trifles Vengeance Languid Loiterers Benevolent Wily Sauntering Reverence
Chapters Five and Six
Articulate Conjunction Ample Insignificant Venerable Entailed Endeavor Besmirched Proposition Wrung Sovereign Rueful Conjectured Audacious Injunctions Bias Imprudent Exalted Comrade Bramble Waning Equestrian Ferocity Wanton Commutation Atrocious Sombre Discern Balustrade Dias Copses Melancholy
Chapters Seven and Eight
Efface Pallid Erroneous Propitious Excursion Credulous Placid Reproved Cordial Grazier Interminable Irretrievably Tinged Irresolution Induce Monoliths Scarred Antiquarian Disapprobation Choleric Furtive Cunning Surmise Conjecture Concealment Belated Unmitigated Conscientious Incriminating Personification
Chapters Nine and Ten
Reproached Gesticulated Haughty Peremptory Displeasure Rueful Brusquely Conjectures Upshot Cultivating Floundering Agitation Warders Unmitigated Crevice Vile Tor Indelibly Abortive Spectral Distrait Abetting Faculties Atone Deluged Sodden Morass Pittance Connoisseur Cavalier
Chapters Eleven and Twelve
Delicacy Retiring Almoner Torrent Rendezvous Inconclusive Incessant Abhor Reticent Magnates Warren Effigy Incredulity Urchin Toiling Furtive Indignation Decanter Dissuading Incisive Contrived Tenacity Vehemence Piteous Precipitous Paroxysm Ruffianly Roisterer (in the book as Roysterer) Afoot Juncture
Chapters Thirteen and Fourteen
Perceptibly Recital Dictated Precipice Sensational Analogous Reverential Loath Fulfillment Void Hampered Halted Admirable Ambush Serrated Inexorably Inert Hackles Delirious Vulnerable Insensible Feeble Endangered Doddering Defiant Baulk Swathed Weal Mottled Hale Peninsula Quagmires Miasmatic Undulations Perilous Morass Fathomed
Chapter Fifteen
Atrocious Barrister Purloined Consumptive Disrepute Infamy Entomology Ingenious Finesse Diabolical Penetrate Coincide Specious Infernal Lair Accomplice Grotesque Expedient Audacity Instructive Elucidate Waning Confidant Lisping Reproach Implicating Fidelity
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
The Hound of the Baskervilles
If you have read some of my other posts you know I have been working hard at compiling my 9th (10th?) grade son's literature curriculum for the year. Most packaged curriculums only offer snippets of books. I'd rather my kids read really great books in their entirety! In my mind, the purpose of good literature is to transport the reader, to give the reader a new perspective to interpret his own life, and to spend time in imagination.
When I was a young student, I loved being in the middle of a book, and going to bed at night and dreaming about what those characters would do. It sparks creativity. If you only read a portion of a book, how can you develop a sense of the characters enough to imagine their responses, or to recreate their world in your head?
Also, it seems that most homeschool recommendations by grade level far exceed the grade level a corresponding public school student. My son has only been out of public school three years, he's not reading at a college level yet. I had to select books for him that he could understand and enjoy, not that he would struggle to get through and glare at me between chapters, which brings me to my next selection for this year.
I started The Scarlet Letter and Wuthering Heights earlier this summer, but they proved to be a little too Victorian and wordy. You know how those first few chapters are spent trying to just get used to the rhythm of the language? Well, not so with Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's The Hound of the Baskervilles (found on gutenberg.org). In fact, I think that having completed that book, it might be a good stepping off point into other more challenging Victorian works. We'll see how it goes.
The language and style in this novel was about on par with Burnett's The Secret Garden, but the material was more mature, and there were more words that may not be known. I'll provide a vocab list separately. It was a fun run through the moor with enough twists and turns to keep the reader occupied without getting too confused.
I will say, for you Christian Homeschooling moms (of which I am, too) there may be some concern about the "man of science" position of Sherlock Holmes. This is the first Holmes book I have read, and I didn't find it to discount faith at all. The premise is that Holmes is presented with what sounds like a legend, an evil hound patrolling the moor at night to bring down the Baskerville empire. Holmes discounts anything he can't quantify, thereby drawing conclusions from evidence not rumor. Not a bad object lesson for teens in my opinion.
In fact, I found a few quotes I thought opened some doors for conversation in morality and faith, like:
"The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes", which to my mind brings up the obviousness of creation and nature itself and the denial by so many of a singular creator.
and
"The work to a man of my temperament was mechanical and uninteresting, but the privilege of living with youth, of helping to mold those young minds, and of impressing them with one's own character and ideals was very dear to me", spoken by a former teacher. Really? Is that the job of an educator? To impress them with the teacher's character and ideals? Or to impress them with the textbook writer's ideals? Or shall we be impressing Christ's own ideals on our children?
and the very thought provoking:
"A lucky long shot of my revolver might have crippled him, but I had brought it only to defend myself if attacked and not to shoot an unarmed man who was running away." This statement about pursing a known murderer, an escaped convict, yet Holmes would only shoot him in self defense, not to take him down like an animal on the hunt. Interesting perspective. You can go so many different ways on this to share your family's perspective on protection of the family versus protection of the whole. The rights of man, the guilt of us all. So much you can do with that little thought.
My daughter is asking for some computer time, so I will update with vocabulary later. It wasn't as thick in challenging words as The Call of the Canyon, so I may do this book before that one this year.
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When I was a young student, I loved being in the middle of a book, and going to bed at night and dreaming about what those characters would do. It sparks creativity. If you only read a portion of a book, how can you develop a sense of the characters enough to imagine their responses, or to recreate their world in your head?
Also, it seems that most homeschool recommendations by grade level far exceed the grade level a corresponding public school student. My son has only been out of public school three years, he's not reading at a college level yet. I had to select books for him that he could understand and enjoy, not that he would struggle to get through and glare at me between chapters, which brings me to my next selection for this year.
I started The Scarlet Letter and Wuthering Heights earlier this summer, but they proved to be a little too Victorian and wordy. You know how those first few chapters are spent trying to just get used to the rhythm of the language? Well, not so with Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's The Hound of the Baskervilles (found on gutenberg.org). In fact, I think that having completed that book, it might be a good stepping off point into other more challenging Victorian works. We'll see how it goes.
The language and style in this novel was about on par with Burnett's The Secret Garden, but the material was more mature, and there were more words that may not be known. I'll provide a vocab list separately. It was a fun run through the moor with enough twists and turns to keep the reader occupied without getting too confused.
I will say, for you Christian Homeschooling moms (of which I am, too) there may be some concern about the "man of science" position of Sherlock Holmes. This is the first Holmes book I have read, and I didn't find it to discount faith at all. The premise is that Holmes is presented with what sounds like a legend, an evil hound patrolling the moor at night to bring down the Baskerville empire. Holmes discounts anything he can't quantify, thereby drawing conclusions from evidence not rumor. Not a bad object lesson for teens in my opinion.
In fact, I found a few quotes I thought opened some doors for conversation in morality and faith, like:
"The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes", which to my mind brings up the obviousness of creation and nature itself and the denial by so many of a singular creator.
and
"The work to a man of my temperament was mechanical and uninteresting, but the privilege of living with youth, of helping to mold those young minds, and of impressing them with one's own character and ideals was very dear to me", spoken by a former teacher. Really? Is that the job of an educator? To impress them with the teacher's character and ideals? Or to impress them with the textbook writer's ideals? Or shall we be impressing Christ's own ideals on our children?
and the very thought provoking:
"A lucky long shot of my revolver might have crippled him, but I had brought it only to defend myself if attacked and not to shoot an unarmed man who was running away." This statement about pursing a known murderer, an escaped convict, yet Holmes would only shoot him in self defense, not to take him down like an animal on the hunt. Interesting perspective. You can go so many different ways on this to share your family's perspective on protection of the family versus protection of the whole. The rights of man, the guilt of us all. So much you can do with that little thought.
My daughter is asking for some computer time, so I will update with vocabulary later. It wasn't as thick in challenging words as The Call of the Canyon, so I may do this book before that one this year.
Who am I? Find out on my bio page.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Does Your Child's Disability Define Them?
I hear from a lot of mothers, this claim that they won't let their child's disability define who they are. What really surprises me is how many Christian mothers tell me this. Children with congenital disabilities or deformities. "I wont LET this define my child". Why not?
I know I have the unique perspective of a mother whose three children were all born with a congenital disability. (I won't even go into the term "disability" here.) It is impossible for me to NOT see that these three little people were put together in this time and this place for His glory. If you only have one, maybe you feel it was a fluke. Maybe you think you are being tested or you screwed something up. But when you have three as I do, you get to see there is purpose behind this arrangement.
But to you, mother of two "normal" healthy children and the one with all the hardships and challenges, physical therapy, occupational therapy, speech therapy, medication once, twice, three times a day, to you my dear, I know you may feel something went terribly amiss when your child was created. I am here to tell you no.it.did.not.
I crochet, it is kind of a fog clearing thing. When everything is confusing, I can battle with a pattern that makes no sense, stick with it, work through it, and get to the result I thought I was never going to find. I wish life worked that way. So of course, Psalm 139 is a favorite of mine. It says God knit us together in our mother's womb. He knew me before my mother did and He knew my child before I did. He made my child the way He wanted. Migraine, Epilepsy, ODD, speech delays, all of these things He knew before my kids were even born! He knew what He was doing, and I can trust that.
So I come back around to being defined by a disability. If God created your child the way he is and wanted him to be that way, why would we want to fight against it? I'm not saying our kids shouldn't work up to their potential, and get every opportunity they deserve, but epilepsy makes my kids creative. They see the world so very differently from other people who have just one perspective. Epilepsy makes my kids compassionate. They are so loving and generous to people in need, people hurting, people scared, because they know how that feels. Epilepsy makes my kids introspective, and a well examined life is lived so much more fully.
We live in a world full of fake beauty, false success and empty riches. People living their lives to acquire and accumulate often don't see how empty their lives are until the end. Facing people, children especially, with disabilities brings a humanity to overachieving automatons and hopefully shines a light on what is worthy, what is valuable, what is important in life.
Bless your children, and bless you, mom of the handicapped child. You are doing important work for your entire community, not just for your own family. See why I care at my bio page.
I know I have the unique perspective of a mother whose three children were all born with a congenital disability. (I won't even go into the term "disability" here.) It is impossible for me to NOT see that these three little people were put together in this time and this place for His glory. If you only have one, maybe you feel it was a fluke. Maybe you think you are being tested or you screwed something up. But when you have three as I do, you get to see there is purpose behind this arrangement.
But to you, mother of two "normal" healthy children and the one with all the hardships and challenges, physical therapy, occupational therapy, speech therapy, medication once, twice, three times a day, to you my dear, I know you may feel something went terribly amiss when your child was created. I am here to tell you no.it.did.not.
I crochet, it is kind of a fog clearing thing. When everything is confusing, I can battle with a pattern that makes no sense, stick with it, work through it, and get to the result I thought I was never going to find. I wish life worked that way. So of course, Psalm 139 is a favorite of mine. It says God knit us together in our mother's womb. He knew me before my mother did and He knew my child before I did. He made my child the way He wanted. Migraine, Epilepsy, ODD, speech delays, all of these things He knew before my kids were even born! He knew what He was doing, and I can trust that.
So I come back around to being defined by a disability. If God created your child the way he is and wanted him to be that way, why would we want to fight against it? I'm not saying our kids shouldn't work up to their potential, and get every opportunity they deserve, but epilepsy makes my kids creative. They see the world so very differently from other people who have just one perspective. Epilepsy makes my kids compassionate. They are so loving and generous to people in need, people hurting, people scared, because they know how that feels. Epilepsy makes my kids introspective, and a well examined life is lived so much more fully.
We live in a world full of fake beauty, false success and empty riches. People living their lives to acquire and accumulate often don't see how empty their lives are until the end. Facing people, children especially, with disabilities brings a humanity to overachieving automatons and hopefully shines a light on what is worthy, what is valuable, what is important in life.
Bless your children, and bless you, mom of the handicapped child. You are doing important work for your entire community, not just for your own family. See why I care at my bio page.
From the Garden
I had lots of tomatoes sitting around the house to somehow go with the risotto I made tonight.
My dad bought some hydroponic Santorini tomatoes to go with our Christmas dinner last year. I liked them so much I tried planting the seeds. In December.
Now, July, it is the biggest plant in my yard. I kept it inside, stunted to about two feet, until Good Friday. These plants are the most humongous I have ever planted. And productive? Oh, yes!
A little basil, balsamic and pepper, and I was a very happy momma.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Vocab of The Call of the Canyon
I'm sure this is fascinating reading for the random visitor. But for you homeschool moms out there like me compiling your own work, a la Charlotte Mason here is my selection of vocabulary for The Call of the Canyon by Zane Grey (available for free on Gutenberg.org). Here is how this will play out in my lessons:
Day 1: Look up vocabulary for Chapter One (neatness counts!)
Day 2: Read Chapter One
Day 3: Write 15 sentences with selected vocabulary words from Day One
Day 4: Look up vocabulary for Chapter Two
Day 5: so on and so forth until the book is complete, six weeks later.
I don't usually do questions, we have conversations about the book. I occasionally use questions as a jumping off point to write some argumentative narrative. I may add those questions in a later post. I'm thinking of using this as a place to start conversations about marriage and cover biblical responsibilities.
For now, vocabulary:
Chapter One
Aloofness Myriad Blanched Strife Pealing Enveloped Perplexed Wretch Induce Degradation Looming Squalid Uncouth Perusal Blight Blunting Ponder Adjoining Transatlantic Enterprise Abeyance Vigilant Crass Quaint Consumptive Vista Crude Espied Incredulously Dispelled Languid Affronted Soliciting Patronage Discordant Phonograph Laconic Spigot Torrent Intermittent Partake Squalid Sordid Dilapidated Apathetic Incalculably
Chapter Two
Abated Gorge Intimation Glades Bisected Eddying Unscalable Singular Disengage Fagged Lithe Drawling Antagonistically Divest Solicitous Wan Tenderfeet Cardinally Squalor Affronting Juncture Emanate Twinge Conducted Assailed Queried Billets Suffice Permeated Fissure Strained Dispelled Manifestly Pallid Inarticulate Disheveled Requisite Audacious Pirouetting Coquette Prevailing Affronted Proffered Reticent Confide Chiseled Unplumbed Betrothal Verge Opaque Tumult Intangible
Chapter Three
Primitive Waxing Intimation Susceptibility Privation Assuredly Donned Loquacious Gnarled Rampart Desecrating Potent Taunted Daunt Precluded Scrupulously Boughs Inscrutable Verdure Constricted Scudding Averse Usurping Instructive Imperiously Arraigned Ravenous
Chapter Four
Propitious Deviation Feigned Mollycoddle Bestrode Alacrity Manifested Acute Aspect Sparsely Somber Mirth Resentment Hobbling Disclosing Aghast Assimilation Endeavored Ludicrous Enamored Eloquently Petrifaction Derived Genially Privation Adjured Mitigating Eminence Effulgence Ethereal Coalescing Cavalcade Plight Pommel Thwarted Abject
Chapter Five
Acrid Insatiable Hombre Laconically Inimical Listless Divine Expulsion Furtive Scant Verdure Entail Antipathy Barren Confounded Illimitable Annihilating Infinitude Succumbing Denuded Lenient Baser Motliest Stolid
Chapter Six
Sloughing Ignoble Tumultuous Impassive Pathos Epithet Cynosure Inscrutable Repose Elude Soliloquized Repudiation Laconically Enigmatically Antitheses Barren Verily Contrarily Rift Oblivion Inarticulate Deceit
Chapter Seven
Discontent Germinate Intimations Conscientiously Query Surety Inhibited Sylvan Virility Dissociate Blighting Unalterable Inscrutable Presaged Boggy Mien Fastidious Ignominy Miasmas Shirked Desultory Callous Fidelity Transfigured Actuated Impondering Articulation Abased Strife
Chapter Eight
Poignant Firmament Lambent Transient Recurrent Tedious Palatial Prodigal Throng Devitalized Labyrinthine Harmonize Diverting Inaugurated Fastidious Gyrated Disparagingly Valiant Indolent Effete Imbibed Thronging Congenial
Chapter Nine
Sentimentalist Melancholic Inexorable Arraignment Erroneous Begetting Knave Reciprocated Aghast Farcical Frivolous Guise Sentiment Engendered Perusal Pathos Oblations Discordantly Poignant Subterfuge Laboriously Rancorous
Chapter Ten
Edifice Dissimulation Contempt Abasement Commensurate Dalliance Portent Inimical Vaunted Discordant Dubiously Dawdle Aloof Morbid Insidiously Havoc Ostracized Trenchant Prattled Incalculable Derided
Chapter Eleven
Innumerable Pinyons Escarpments Precipitous Abeyance Mesas Rending Shackles Gesticulation Staccato Loath Denizens Abnegation Infinitesimal Guileless
Chapter Twelve
Augmented Coalesced Maelstrom Aberration Irreparable Insidious Cataclysm Sublimity Inured Maladies Strenuous Garments Pondering Motley Fortitude
Day 1: Look up vocabulary for Chapter One (neatness counts!)
Day 2: Read Chapter One
Day 3: Write 15 sentences with selected vocabulary words from Day One
Day 4: Look up vocabulary for Chapter Two
Day 5: so on and so forth until the book is complete, six weeks later.
I don't usually do questions, we have conversations about the book. I occasionally use questions as a jumping off point to write some argumentative narrative. I may add those questions in a later post. I'm thinking of using this as a place to start conversations about marriage and cover biblical responsibilities.
For now, vocabulary:
Chapter One
Aloofness Myriad Blanched Strife Pealing Enveloped Perplexed Wretch Induce Degradation Looming Squalid Uncouth Perusal Blight Blunting Ponder Adjoining Transatlantic Enterprise Abeyance Vigilant Crass Quaint Consumptive Vista Crude Espied Incredulously Dispelled Languid Affronted Soliciting Patronage Discordant Phonograph Laconic Spigot Torrent Intermittent Partake Squalid Sordid Dilapidated Apathetic Incalculably
Chapter Two
Abated Gorge Intimation Glades Bisected Eddying Unscalable Singular Disengage Fagged Lithe Drawling Antagonistically Divest Solicitous Wan Tenderfeet Cardinally Squalor Affronting Juncture Emanate Twinge Conducted Assailed Queried Billets Suffice Permeated Fissure Strained Dispelled Manifestly Pallid Inarticulate Disheveled Requisite Audacious Pirouetting Coquette Prevailing Affronted Proffered Reticent Confide Chiseled Unplumbed Betrothal Verge Opaque Tumult Intangible
Chapter Three
Primitive Waxing Intimation Susceptibility Privation Assuredly Donned Loquacious Gnarled Rampart Desecrating Potent Taunted Daunt Precluded Scrupulously Boughs Inscrutable Verdure Constricted Scudding Averse Usurping Instructive Imperiously Arraigned Ravenous
Chapter Four
Propitious Deviation Feigned Mollycoddle Bestrode Alacrity Manifested Acute Aspect Sparsely Somber Mirth Resentment Hobbling Disclosing Aghast Assimilation Endeavored Ludicrous Enamored Eloquently Petrifaction Derived Genially Privation Adjured Mitigating Eminence Effulgence Ethereal Coalescing Cavalcade Plight Pommel Thwarted Abject
Chapter Five
Acrid Insatiable Hombre Laconically Inimical Listless Divine Expulsion Furtive Scant Verdure Entail Antipathy Barren Confounded Illimitable Annihilating Infinitude Succumbing Denuded Lenient Baser Motliest Stolid
Chapter Six
Sloughing Ignoble Tumultuous Impassive Pathos Epithet Cynosure Inscrutable Repose Elude Soliloquized Repudiation Laconically Enigmatically Antitheses Barren Verily Contrarily Rift Oblivion Inarticulate Deceit
Chapter Seven
Discontent Germinate Intimations Conscientiously Query Surety Inhibited Sylvan Virility Dissociate Blighting Unalterable Inscrutable Presaged Boggy Mien Fastidious Ignominy Miasmas Shirked Desultory Callous Fidelity Transfigured Actuated Impondering Articulation Abased Strife
Chapter Eight
Poignant Firmament Lambent Transient Recurrent Tedious Palatial Prodigal Throng Devitalized Labyrinthine Harmonize Diverting Inaugurated Fastidious Gyrated Disparagingly Valiant Indolent Effete Imbibed Thronging Congenial
Chapter Nine
Sentimentalist Melancholic Inexorable Arraignment Erroneous Begetting Knave Reciprocated Aghast Farcical Frivolous Guise Sentiment Engendered Perusal Pathos Oblations Discordantly Poignant Subterfuge Laboriously Rancorous
Chapter Ten
Edifice Dissimulation Contempt Abasement Commensurate Dalliance Portent Inimical Vaunted Discordant Dubiously Dawdle Aloof Morbid Insidiously Havoc Ostracized Trenchant Prattled Incalculable Derided
Chapter Eleven
Innumerable Pinyons Escarpments Precipitous Abeyance Mesas Rending Shackles Gesticulation Staccato Loath Denizens Abnegation Infinitesimal Guileless
Chapter Twelve
Augmented Coalesced Maelstrom Aberration Irreparable Insidious Cataclysm Sublimity Inured Maladies Strenuous Garments Pondering Motley Fortitude
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